Gender Equality Nepal Project #38338

Empower Feed Educate Single mother headed families

by Bahini Educare Foundation

Project Report | Jun 3, 2022
Family of the Month - May

By Surendra Pariyar | Executive Director

Single mother: Name Withheld for Privacy, Aged 29

Beneficiaries: Rasmi (Name Changed), Aged 12 (Daughter)

Kriya (Name Changed), Aged 9 (Daughter)

Narrative :

Name Withheld for Privacy was born in a small village in the hills of Parbat district. According to her she had a happy childhood, helping with the daily chores in the small family farm and attending Government-school up to grade eight. Like the majority of the girls in rural Nepal she lived a simple life, just as their ancestors did for many generations. They had no demands other than satisfying the most basic needs and life followed the natural flow of the seasons. When she was 15, electricity first reached her village and this was the biggest event on record for her and her whole village. When the first TV was bought by a villager, the whole community would gather around his house in the evening to witness a different, fascinating reality from their own.

Moved by a Bollywood-romance that she was watching on TV, Name Withheld for Privacy fell in love with Karma (Name Changed), a boy she met in her school and as this love-story has it, she became pregnant.

Rejected by their families the couple moved to a different district where her husband found a job as a construction worker.

In the year 2010 their first daughter Rasmi (Name Changed) was born followed by the second daughter Kriya (Name Changed) two years later.

When pregnant with her second child, Karma (Name Changed) took to drinking Raksi, a homemade liqueur that is cheaply available and widely consumed by the poor people in Nepal. It can be stated that “Raksi” and consequent alcoholism are the main cause for the destruction of many families and livelihoods, for domestic violence, rape and abuse in Nepal!

After the birth of the second daughter Kriya (Name Changed), he had turned into a violent alcoholic who constantly terrorized and abused his family. Name Withheld for Privacy and her daughters suffered from food insecurity and the lack of the most basic needs. After another terrible night of violence, Name Withheld for Privacy, shattered and traumatized, fled the terror of her raging husband empty handed with her daughters, five and one year old at the time.

They found temporary shelter in her sister’s house in the vicinity of Pokhara until Name Withheld for Privacy found work on a farm, and this in the village of Ghachowk where another of our “EduCare-Families” is located. Her meager income is barely sufficient to cover the most basic needs; but there is no money for education, appropriate clothing and medical care.

She applied for our support recently, and given the circumstances and the vulnerability of this family we decided to admit them as a new “EduCare-Family” as from May 2022.

We will support this family with direct and concrete action! As well as satisfying their basic needs such as food-security and education, we also help ensure that human rights are upheld and the way is paved for the girls and the mother concerned to a life in dignity and safety.

We do not have the funds required for the support of this family. The yearly expenses for their support will amount to plus/minus Euro 1.100,-

Please give generously and promptly, no one is more deserving of our help than these vulnerable mothers and their children!

We are ready and eager to increase our capacity for many more of our target groups who are in dire need of our help and this provided that we are successful in raising additional funds.

It’s simple “It’s simply BEF”

Sincerely yours,

Surendra, Raymond & the TEAM

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Apr 28, 2022
Family of the Month - April

By Surendra Pariyar | Project Leader

This family has been admitted in December of 2016. They stem from a remote village in Myagdi.

Beneficiaries age at the time of admittance :
Mother Name withheld for privacy aged 29
Rita (Name Changed), 16 years old (Daughter)
Raj (Name Changed) 1 and half year old (Son)
Rajita (Name Changed) Newly born (Daughter)

Name withheld for privacy’s parents owned a small farm and she received primary education at the local Government school. At the age of 18 her parents arranged a marriage to Lal (Name Changed), 20, a farmer’s son from the neighboring village. The following year, Rita (Name Changed), their first daughter was born followed by another a year later. Life with the in-laws became increasingly difficult for them and they decided to migrate to Pokhara, where Lal (Name Changed) found a job as a construction worker and with his regular income their life was improving.

After the birth of the first son, Lal (Name Changed) decided to migrate to Saudi-Arabia where he worked for several years.

Lal(Name Changed) managed to make regular transfers for the support of his family and he was able to save money to buy land in his village. In Nepal “Land is wealth” and all who are going abroad to earn money are aspiring to buy land and build a house.

When returning to Nepal six years later he was very sick and frail and he was diagnosed with cancer. Over the next two years he received treatment for his cancer and all their savings were spent to pay for the medical costs and the Hospitals. Their land too had to be sold and this in the hope that his life could be saved.

It is not unusual in Nepal that people are losing all their property to pay for Hospitals and medical treatment when sick, and this is leading to a “New Rural-Poverty” in Nepal.

In the year 2015, one year after his second son was born, Lal (Name Changed) passed away leaving his pregnant wife, and four children in a desperate situation.

They had lost everything and the mother had no other choice but begging for food to feed her children.

In the year 2016, Name withheld for privacy came to know about “BEF” and she applied for support, and in December this family was supported by our organization.

Rita (Name Changed), the oldest daughter after finishing her education was referred to our partner “LP4Y” where she received three months vocational and empowerment training. After successful completion of her training she found a job as a teacher. She currently is living with her family and she helps in supporting her mother and her siblings.

Eight year old Raj (Name Changed) and six year old Rajita (Name Changed) are both attending Government school and they are receiving all the care and benefits that “BEF” is providing for the “EduCare-Families”.

The mother too is doing considerably well and the whole family is happy and thriving!

This family, once desperate and on the brink of disaster is now living a decent life in safety and dignity!

“It’s simple, it’s simply BEF “

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Mar 14, 2022
Educare Family of the month: March

By Surendra Pariyar | Executive Director

Single mother: (Name Withheld for privacy), Aged 26

Daughters: Rita (Name Changed), Aged 8
Sita (Name Changed), Aged 4
Ram (Name Changed), Aged 3

Narrative: (Name Withheld for privacy) stems from a village west of Kathmandu. Her parents owned a small farm and at the age of six she joined a Government School up to grade eight. (Name Withheld for privacy) got married at the age of 16 to Santosh aged 19.

It was love-marriage which is still unusual in Nepal where the parents are choosing a bride for their son. The parents didn’t agree and accordingly the young couple didn’t move to the groom’s house as the tradition holds. They moved to the town where Santosh was working as a Caterpillar operator. He made a fairly good living and he was a kind and caring husband and father. (Name Withheld for privacy) told us, life was good and we were a happy family.

One year after the birth of the youngest daughter, the 29 year old father died on the construction site where he was working. Heart failure was the official cause of death. The 26 year old mother of three was devastated and until this day she has still not processed the tragic loss of her husband. Bereft of the only bread earner and without any protection or support this family found them self on the brink of disaster.

I had to be strong, said (Name Withheld for privacy) because there was no one to help me and I have to take care of my three daughters.

She decided to move to Pokhara where it was easier to find work for her.

She ended up in a make shift shanti in a slum on the suburbs of Pokhara and she found work as a domestic helper in the house of a merchant.

The slums are a breeding ground for alcoholics, drugs, violence, rape and prostitution. Young women and under aged girls are often coerced or tricked into prostitution and it is here that the organized human traffickers are looking for their prey.

(Name Withheld for privacy) came to know about “BEF” who occasionally is conducting aid programs in the slums and she applied for support.

Given her situation, the vulnerability of this family and the high risk of abuse and exploitation we decided to take this family under our wings.

We talked to the landlord of her workplace and he agreed to provide them with a room on his premises.

With our support and (Name Withheld for privacy)’s earnings the family is now living a life in safety and dignity, they regained hope and all are thriving and in good health.

The two older girls have been admitted to school respectively into grade II and kinder garden. Both are very well mannered and diligent students.

The yearly expenses to support and care for this family of four amounts to around € 1.400,-

For them, the support of “BEF” is making all the difference!

It’s simple, it’s “Simply BEF”!

Sincerely yours

Surendra & the TEAM

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