Empower Feed Educate Single mother headed families

Dear friends, partners and benefactors,

Nancy (Name Changed) family was admitted as our Educare Family on June 2019. Nancy (Name Changed), aged 32 lives with her only daughter Rita (Name Changed) now aged 12 in a rented room on the outskirts of Pokhara.

Nancy (Name Changed) was born with a disability, a partially paralyzed right arm and a deformation of her hand. She was lucky enough that her mother fed her and cared for her and this in a society where this is not always the case when children are born with a disability.

From early childhood Nancy (Name Changed) had to work, guarding goats, fetching firewood and fodder for the livestock. She never went to school and should remain illiterate like many other underprivileged girls of her generation.

In her twenties she was married of to an older man, a day laborer and a couple of years later she gave birth to a healthy baby-girl. As it happened her husband was an alcoholic and most of his daily wage was wasted on booze and in gambling. (The three evils, alcohol, gambling and violence are frequent among the poor, working-class people and they are wreaking havoc and bring disaster for too many families)!

At home he vented his anger and violence and fear and hunger became a frequent guest in the tiny makeshift-shanty they called their home!

In the year 2017, wrecked, indebted the desperate man committed suicide and for Nancy (Name Changed) and her little daughter things went from bad to worse.

Nancy (Name Changed) had no other choice but begging for food and they lived from the left-overs and the few pennies that people would give to them. It was a life in utter misery and despair!

It was at this stage, in July 2019, that these helpless and hopeless beings found their way to our organization and they were immediately admitted as a “BEF-EDUCARE-FAMILY”:

The impact by “BEF”:

Once their basic needs had been met with the provision of staple food, appropriate clothing and medical care this family gained hope and confidence immediately. The girl was admitted to school, she is now attending class V and she is a diligent, good student!

The mother, who was mentally unstable, was referred to our network-partner “Nepal-House” for psycho-therapy. (The NGO “NEPAL HOUSE” is providing psychotherapy for abused women and girls. 

After a couple of months of care and counselling Nancy (Name Changed) had gone through an amazing change, and this physically as well as mentally. We encouraged her to start a micro-business and a local donor provided the funds for a startup (approximately € 30,-). Now she is generating a small revenue by selling spices as a street vendor.

With her income and the support by “BEF”, they are living a decent life, in safety and dignity.

From a life in misery and despair to a life in dignity, safety and hope!

We are supporting this family of two for less than € 800,- per year!

Many more destitute single mothers are in desperate need of our “HELP”!

The solution is at hand, it’s so simple, it’s “ SIMPLY BEF”!

Dear Friends and benefactors,
HAPPY NEW YEAR!

This family has been admitted on the 1^st of May, 2015 and this is our “Bahini Educare Family” number 7. (Name withheld) now 27, and a mother of three, got married at the age of 13 years, which is not unusual in Nepal. They lived in a tiny house in a village, and (Name withheld) ´s husband was a hardworking and caring father. Albeit they were poor like almost 60% of Nepal’s population, they somehow managed to survive and cover their most basic needs. In the year 2014 (Name withheld)´s husband was killed while felling a tree. With the demise of the only bread earner, 20 years old (Name withheld) , her daughter (Name withheld)  7, her daughter (Name withheld)  4 and her son (Name withheld)  found themselves in dire straits. (Name withheld)  worked hard to feed her children but ends would never meet and all too often they would go to sleep with an empty stomach. In the year 2015, when a devastating earthquake struck Nepal, their small habitat was badly damaged and they were left without a place to live. They had no other choice but to move to the tiny house of their parents in another village, but given that her parents too were destitute day-laborers, they lived in constant food-insecurity and misery.

The young and hopeless (Name withheld)  was no longer able to cope, she became suicidal and threatened repeatedly that she would take her life along with her children; this is an act of despair that some single mothers who see no other way out are reverting to and one of the greatest tragedies in our society.

It was at this point that (Name withheld)  was referred to the “Bahini-Educare-Foundation” and in May 2015 this family was admitted as one of our “Educare-Families”. By now, January 2022, this family has been under the wings of the “BEF” for almost seven years and the whole family has seen dramatic positive changes. (Name withheld)  and her children are now living in a corrugated metal shack in a beautiful village and a safe and clean environment. The children are joining a nearby school and all are diligent and good students.
We are providing them staple food every month, clothes, medical care, education and counselling if needed so. We are not providing them any money and all family members have to help in the daily cores such as taking care of the orchard, fetch fodder for the goats and collecting firewood. All family members are happy and thriving, they supportive and caring and their faces are expressing gratitude and hope. 

We are able to achieve all this for one Euro a day for each family member and the result is truly amazing! These children didn’t end up in an orphanage, they were not forced into child-marriage, child-labor or unsafe migration, abuse and exploitation. These children are staying with their mother enjoying a family life in safety and dignity. With our approach we are preventing a lot of intolerable suffering and injustice and we are creating a minimum of dependence. This is a simple but unique new concept and thousands such single mothers and their children that are in similar conditions could find adequate help, provided that this “CONCEPT” will convince the international donor-community. Please consider and increase your support, recommend our work to other organization’s or support us in any other way. No one is more deserving of your support then these mothers and their children.

Thank you for your support!
Surendra & the TEAM